It Tasted Like $#!+, And Other Family Woes

Smelling Irises

My Young Love… Looking Quite Innocent. I AM happy to report he finally let me rid him of the dreadful Rat Tail!

Hello! It seems like it’s been a long couple of weeks, and I apologize for being less than a reliable blogger lately. With not much happening on the Armitage front, motivation is lacking, while on the bright side, the veterinary business is really picking up, so free time has also been lacking. I wish I could say all was just fine, but that’s not quite true. On the home front, our Young Love has been giving us fits. Warning: contains very bad language!

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you’ll know that we have an intellectually gifted (though fashion-challenged) first-grade boy. He’s always had an outgoing personality, breezes through school with fantastic grades, and up until recently, he’s had generally good classroom behavior, with occasional trips to the “Take-A-Break” (Time-Out) desk for reasons such as talking when he’s supposed to be working, or not following instructions. A couple of months ago, he did bring home a Take-A-Break form in which the infraction was swearing, and when we asked him what he’d said, he told us it was spelled “F-U-C-K” and he saw it on the bathroom wall, and could we please tell him what that word even means?

Well, we didn’t tell him what F-U-C-K means. We just said it was an ugly word that was definitely inappropriate for school, and asked him to write all the ugly words that he knows, so we could look them over and tell him which words would definitely be inappropriate. He wrote a pretty decent list, including shit, crap, ass, hell, fuck, pussy, damn, and a few more. The only word he wrote that wasn’t really a dirty word was “sex”, but we said it still wasn’t a great word for most school contexts. =)

Anyway, I looked over his list and told him that he had a pretty impressive list of dirty words, and I warned him that we had better NOT start hearing those words come out of his mouth! Being the type to question every statement I make, he asked what would happen to him, so I told him I thought using language like that would mean he had a dirty mouth, so I’d just have to wash his mouth out with soap if any of the words on that list except for “sex” came out of his mouth.

That was that. No major behavior problems for a couple of months, until the last several weeks, when suddenly we started seeing Take-A-Break forms several times per week, and usually involving getting into altercations with other students, shoving, kicking, calling names, etc. When we asked him what was going on, he said some kids were picking on him, and making him really mad. He’d called his classmate Zoe a “Witch” one day, and his classmate Wyatt a “Total Butthead” the day after that!

I wasn’t sure whether he was being picked on, as he claimed, and acting out as a result, or if he was acting the bully. I sent an e-mail to his teacher, and she responded that for the most part, it was typical rough-housing type of behavior… that she didn’t feel like he was necessarily a bully, but that he was prone to getting physical or calling names when he was frustrated. At home, for this type of infraction, he lost all electronics privileges for 1 week, with the 7-day count-down to start over if he had another incident during the “grounded” period. (It’s going on 2 1/2 weeks, because he keeps on having incidents.)

So last Monday, he brought home another Take-A-Break form for swearing. I asked him what word it was, and he admitted it was spelled “S-H-I-T”. I didn’t ask him why he said it, but told him after dinner, we’d have to wash his mouth out with soap, as promised. (I’m a Mom of my word… I may have really regretted making that threat, but once it was made, I felt I needed to follow through!)

So after dinner, my plan was to take him into the bathroom, and I’d take a bar of soap and swish it over his tongue a couple of times to put a bad taste in his mouth. A couple of seconds of parental torture, tops. However, when I tried to do this, he bit down on the soap (to prevent it going in far enough to touch his tongue), and when I told him to open up so I could get his mouth clean, he clamped his teeth down further and stubbornly shook his head. I said “Fine!” and left the soap between his teeth while I got a baby wipe and cleaned around his mouth to remove pizza sauce from dinner. When I finished that, I said I thought his mouth was probably pretty clean, and tried to remove the soap.

Dental Impression

I never meant for it to become stuck on his teeth! Honest!

It was stuck! Whoops! He’d bitten into it so far that his teeth were embedded, so it took a brief struggle to dislodge the soap! On the bright side, we have a nice dental impression from the Young Love to admire, now. He was silent and furious, face red, and I told him it was ok to go ahead and rinse the soap off his teeth and spit. He did so, then crossed his arms and stomp-marched out of the bathroom and down to the other end of the house, into his sister’s room, and shut the door with emphasis! I was running a bath, and after a few minutes, I went and knocked on his sister’s door, and told her it was bath time. When she arrived for her bath, I asked her if her brother had said anything about what happened, and she said, “Yep. He said you washed his mouth out with soap, and it tasted like Sh—– I mean, it tasted like… Bug Poop!”

(She covers for him, bless her heart! She totally could have tattled that he turned right around and used the same dirty word 30 seconds after having his mouth washed out… but she totally lied to protect him instead! LOL.)

But our story isn’t over. Later that night, at bedtime, I warned him that the same thing could happen again if he kept on swearing, and I advised him that if he felt like saying bad words, he was free to do so, but only in his head, or if he was all by himself, he could say them out loud. He was just not to swear in front of people, or at people, or he knew the consequences. He responded that he was going to be swearing inside his head a lot, especially when I made him mad, and I said that was perfectly acceptable to me, and kissed him goodnight.

The following day, a Tuesday, we received another Take-A-Break form. He was swearing again! I expressed my disbelief that he would get caught swearing the very next day, and he said he hadn’t done it in front of any teachers, but he had done it on the playground, and some other kids had told on him to get him in trouble. “What did I tell you about swearing out loud? That’s why if you do it out loud, you need to be all by yourself. Otherwise you get in trouble, right?” He agreed, and tried to get out of the soap procedure, but that wasn’t happening, totally effective parent that I am. (*rolls eyes*) This time, I applied a tiny dab of liquid soap on a toothbrush, and he had to brush his teeth with it. To my surprise, he took it in good stride this time, with none of the storming-off antics. (In fact, he was so nonchalant that I made the mistake of tasting it myself after he left the room, thinking it couldn’t have been all that bad… MISTAKE! Blech!)

Along came Wednesday, and Hubby and I were talking via cell phone on the way home from work, when Hubby had to take another call, from the school. I waited with bated breath, and pretty soon Hubby called back, and he’d heard from the Principal’s office. “You’re never going to believe this.” Apparently, our Young Love and his classmate, Zoe, (a.k.a. the “Witch”) were called to the Principal’s office… after the teacher caught Zoe hitting our boy in the genitals! (I admit that rather than feeling horrified or outraged, I stifled a laugh and immediately asked what he’d done to deserve it!) When the Principal asked the two of them what was going on, our Young Love told her it had been happening several times per week since after Spring Break, and Zoe admitted that this was true, but said she only hit him there after he called her names. He in turn admitted she was right. (Evidently he’s a very slow learner when it comes to insulting the wrong girl!)

That night, we had him compose a letter of apology to Zoe, asking forgiveness for calling her names. He did so, and it was a cute note. “Dear Zoe, I am sorry for calling you names. I don’t want to make you sad. Or mad. I don’t want to be your arch enemy. From, [Young Love]” He gave it to her the next day, and behaved himself up until yesterday, when he had another Take-A-Break for shoving, and Hubby received another call from the Principal’s office. Earlier that day, his classmate Wyatt, (a.k.a. the “Total Butthead”) had evidently dared our child to insert his finger in the pencil sharpener, and when the Young Love took the dare, the kid cranked the handle and (slightly) cut his finger! This time the other kid had to go to the principal’s office, and Young Love was just gently chastised by the teacher for taking a foolish dare. Sigh. And we thought he was so bright…. =)

Later, however, I think Wyatt was resentful about the Principal’s office, because just as school was about to be over and the kids were gathering their backpacks, he blocked Young Love’s access to the backpack area and said something along the lines of “You can’t pass, you fat weirdo!” At which time, our son gave him a hard shove, and had to Take Another Damned Break. To make matters worse, it was Tuesday, the day before he was FINALLY supposed to get his electronics privileges back, and he knew that shoving the kid and going to Take-A-Break would mean his 7-day countdown started all over. He apparently cried, and his other nemesis, Zoe, piled it on by calling him a “cry-baby”…

Rough day, right? I feel bad that he’s having these types of exchanges with name-calling, physical altercations, and so on. Now that we hear about the genital hits and the pencil sharpener, I think he is genuinely being picked on, but obviously at least to some extent, he brings it on himself! I know kids will be kids, but I’m afraid of this escalating.

To that end, we talked to him about better ways to handle such a situation, for instance, if Wyatt is in his face, blocking his path, and calling him names. Rather than shoving, swearing, or name-calling, that is. =) Knowing that he has a fantastic memory, I came up with a list of good “comebacks” he could use that might help him keep up his confidence, and come off as cool and nonchalant, which I hope will eventually help prevent bullying. I think it becomes a vicious cycle at some point, in which the kid who is called names loses confidence, and that self-conscious demeanor only triggers more negative attention directed his way.

We actually had a pretty good time last night, taking turns calling each other rude names, practicing our nonchalant demeanor and our comebacks, then turning and walking away! Here are a few:

 

Young Love: Daddy, you’re a Weird Nerd!

Hubby: You say that like it’s a bad thing….

 

Mommy: You’re Fat and Ugly!

Young Love: Where is your “Off” Button?

 

Little Sister: You’re a Big Poo Poo Head!

Hubby: Talk to the hand!

 

Young Love: You’re a Stupid Baby!

Mommy: You Again?

 

Hubby: You’re a Disgusting Booger-Eater!

Young Love: It takes one to know one!

 

Mommy: You’re a Spoiled Brat!

Little Sister: They say everyone has a talent!

 

And so on… it was actually pretty funny, and cathartic. This morning our Young Love was back at it with his list, begging to be insulted during breakfast! We’ll see how it goes….

 

 

 

 

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41 comments

  1. Gratiana Lovelace · May 4, 2016

    So sorry to hear about your youngun’s school troubles. The language sounds like growing pains, but the physical altercations are worrying. Ouch about the pencil sharpener and the girl boxer accosting your son.
    My question is, where are the teachers and such? Don’t schools monitor the discreetly students interactions to intervene, if not prevent unsocial behavior? Schools used to do that. The schools I was in had hallway, cafeteria, recess, and even bathroom monitors, etc.
    But Wow! You are on to something there with the pithy comebacks for Wyatt! Great job! Hope it works out for you and him.
    P.S. And I thought my being tackled repeatedly from the back seat of the car this morning–with our doggies trying to get into the front seat (my hubby was driving)–on the way to the vet’s to get them their bordatella boosters, was bruising (and scratching). My hat is off to you, Lady!

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Sorry about the over-eager doggies! As to the teachers, I guess they don’t have bathroom monitors, because yesterday he said an older kid (3rd or 4th grader) called him a jerk-off in the bathroom, uncertain why or if this was provoked, but I doubt it would have happened in the presence of a bathroom monitor! (Young Love used the “Where is your ‘off’ button” response and said the older boy was confused.) We do have pretty stringent budget cuts and the schools have lost a lot of teacher’s aides etc,… I wonder if that is why there are no bathroom monitors?

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  2. Servetus · May 4, 2016

    End of school year and all squirrelly kids need some time OFF! I hope the other parents are as solicitous as you are about this, and I am thinking of you.

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Yes… end of school can’t come fast enough. It’s a mystery to us why now all of the sudden all this is exploding, but it’ll be nice to have a break from it and start fresh with a new classroom next year. =)

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  3. obscura · May 4, 2016

    Man…grade school is brutal isn’t it. If I have to hear one more time about how “Brooklyn is throwing shade” or “Brielle says my shoes aren’t Birkenstocks after I told her they were Betula’s,” I’m gonna end up in the ducking Take-a-Break desk!!

    I feel you momma – hang in there, summer’s just around the bend thank the gods!!

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Yes, it apparently is more brutal than I really remember… but I was totally non-confrontational (still am!) and never had any type of altercations! LOL. What is “throwing shade”???

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      • obscura · May 5, 2016

        Throwing shade at someone is effectively what I would call trash talking.

        Mini me gets so upset by this stuff yet keeps going back for more…forgiving hearts get battered in 5th grade!

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        • jholland · May 5, 2016

          Ah… thanks for the heads up. *Feeling old* =)

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        • obscura · May 5, 2016

          I spend my life surrounded by late teens and early twenties…it rubs off 😀

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  4. Perry · May 4, 2016

    I’m wondering where Zoe earned to aim for the balls? Good luck with this.

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      I don’t know! She is a bit of an aggressive child, though. I remember earlier in the year, he told us she was the first student to go to the Principal’s office in his classroom, and it was for choking one of the other girls! Yikes!

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  5. Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

    Sounds like you are handling it well. I especially think the practicing comebacks with him are great. I learned to do that as a kid and that talent has always come in handy. Unfortunately, taking away electronics doesn’t always work for my family either. I have niece that has gone for over a year without her iPod and games. 👿

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Well, on the bright side, he gets more exercise when no tablet, tv, computer or x-box are allowed! Burns off his energy outside! He’s enjoying his comebacks- had the chance to say “You Again?” to Wyatt after being called a “Stup-i-saurus” yesterday. =)

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      • Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

        Last time she was here (family is in Seattle) giving her mom a break, I had a talk w/niece about why she is not allowed to swear. For the most part, I like swearing, it is a hobby. Haha, but I don’t do it at work and that is how my family knows I am really angry. I don’t yell or swear. Then it’s time to be afraid. Heh anyway…Don’t know if it will stick, but I told her that mom (my sister) is religious, still goes to mass and cannot accept taking the lords name (in my case RA joke) in vein. Why is it, kids innately know what gets our goat and then exploit it? I explained that until she is an adult, I too would enforce the no swearing law. Why? Because until she obtained a proper education, could communicate without swearing, in every situation she found herself in, all she would succeed in communicating by using bad language is to let everyone within earshot know she was dumb. (Her Achilles) Ignorant, uneducated people cannot communicate in a civil manner, it is one thing to swear around those that know you and know you have a few brain cells kicking about in your head, another to find yourself in a confrontation without the verbal skill to explain yourself. You always come out the loser (wrong, dumb or hauled off to jail) if you only know how to swear. Her mom acts like its nails on the chalk board when her daughter says ‘goddamn it’ which is sort of hilarious to me as we used to say it all the time as kids. Never at school, in front of nuns/parents. That would get us a hack. Spanked with a wooden paddle. Which never happened. This will probably all come back to bite me your know where, but hopefully it will help her mom stay sane a little longer. Gotta say, in my personal experience, the boys have been easier to raise. 😈

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        • jholland · May 5, 2016

          I know it must all depend on the kid! I know I was an easy kid to raise, while my brother gave everyone fits (and still does!) Hubby was an only child, but an easy child, and his mom is astonished about Young Love’s stubbornness and mouthiness, doesn’t know how to handle him at all! Thankfully (for now, at least) there is Little Sister forever being so saintly, so they can’t blame it ALL on the parenting! =)

          Totally agree, and that’s kind of what I told him. I told him I swear, and as a kid I swore, too. Just didn’t do it in front of anyone to stay out of trouble. Need to be able to respond to negative situations in a civil manner, even if what’s in your head is not civil at all!

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        • Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

          Exactly❗️ I am still a smartass but try not to swear at work or in front of the kids, anyone’s kids. Right now, sis is dealing with puberty, boys and what that all means with a 14yr old girl who is not shy, not insecure about her looks or afraid to act on her curiosity. Clearly has a major crush on my hubs, which he handles well and frankly is a good example for her. Not to mention that he is excellent at backing up what me and sister are trying to do. She knows she is attractive and when she visits and hangs out with me at the comic store, I’ve had to tell more than one adult male well into his 30s that she is 12, 13 or 14. She is not shy about kissing. Mom has seen her after school. I hit puberty late, in my 20s, but two of my sisters were bold with boys and plenty of 14 and 15yr olds I knew were sexually active, when I was that age. Afraid this one is headed down that path and while I’m not going to pretend she doesn’t have will of her own, I have tried to explain (as her mother has) the pitfalls of sex with out mutual respect, love and as part of a solid relationship. Not to mention, protection for goodness sakes. Condoms people! My sister has looked into it and with this kid having started her period so young and how they have escalated to painful heavy icky cramps, et al, putting her on birth control might not be a bad option at this point. I don’t think the sex talks will have as much impact as the swearing one seems to have had. But I hope I am wrong.

          Slightly funny side Note: children are hitting puberty at earlier and earlier ages. This one was 10! My sister called me and cried. But ask teachers, this is not unusual anymore. I switched to hormone free milk and other foods that seem like they might not have been injected with too much crap. My hubs asked me (this was many years ago) why the five-dollar-a-gallon milk? Joking, I said it was because I didn’t want him growing boobs. His comeback? ‘I want to grow boobs! I would never leave the house!’ Sadly, I had no comeback at the time, but as I write this, maybe I should have told him, ‘alright then, I guess you won’t need mine anymore.’ 😈

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      • Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

        Oh, it occurs to me, I am not making light of your situation, nor thinking you have it easy.

        If you haven’t used this old one yet,’do you kiss your mother with that mouth?’ 😈

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  6. Helen · May 5, 2016

    Oh my, I hand it to you! This is so funny but I really feel for you and Young Love 😁 Who’d be a kid again, honestly…!

    Love the comebacks and it’s fantastic that he’s getting enthusiastic about them. And hooray for supportive little sister too 😉

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      His little sister is the best. I mean, she advocates for him all the time. I can be having a special Mommy-Daughter outing and she’ll want to bring him home a little toy or piece of candy. You’d think he was awesome to her in return, but unfortunately not so much! LOL

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  7. Guylty · May 5, 2016

    Fabulous list of comebacks – and I like how you have made it a game and a contest. Who can come up with the best “acceptable names”? (There was a time in Germany, when coming up with insults that implied the insulted person was a wimp, was all the rage. Things like “warm water shower user”, or “escalator user”, or “tooth-brush user” almost made it into the dictionary… ) It must be so hard for YL to control his impulses. I really feel for him. He *knows* he’s not supposed to say these words, and yet they just shoot out… Poor thing.
    And wow – you really *did* that thing of rinsing his mouth with soap? I always thought that was just a figure of speech…
    On another level I am surprised how serious an offence the use of a four-letter-word is taken in your son’s school. Is that representative of all the US? Over here, use of such words is certainly not condoned by teachers, either, and pupils are reprimanded for it, but I never once received a note from the school regarding that. Mind you, the Irish are famous for swearing, I suppose… It’s a lost battle over here.

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Lol! I feel kind of like a “stupisaurus” myself but totally don’t get the “tooth-brush user” / wimp equivalence! And yep, and after doing the soap thing, I heard a lot of stories about it and it sounds like it’s basically a time-honored tradition around here! He did try really hard to reason with me, informing me that “dirty words” don’t ACTUALLY make his mouth dirty, so soap wouldn’t work. I had to admit then that he was right about that, but that I figured it would be unpleasant enough that he’d think twice in the future, and he said it really was gross. LOL. As far as the seriousness of the offense, it’s just a classroom rule that they will use a civil tongue, and any time they break any classroom rule (or get caught, anyway!), they have to go to the Take-A-Break desk, sit there for a few minutes and fill out the form themselves. (I went to T-A-B because I was [fill in the blank]. In the future I can behave differently by [fill in the blank].) The parent has to read it and sign off at the bottom. That’s how they do in first grade, anyway. Not sure how they handle it in the older grades. =)

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      • Servetus · May 5, 2016

        Cultural note — maybe Guylty remembers this differently, but I was living in Germany when this was all the rage (about a 4 month period when I was noticing it anyway), and as I remember it at the university I was attending, it started off as a discourse specifically about men. There’s a German expression, “Softie,” which can mean a weakling but usually means a man who’s a bit emotional and sympathetic. A lot of the insults I heard were directed at men specifically (“Frauenversteher” — woman-understander), so all the stuff about cleanliness might fit in there — women want you to be clean so if you do things like wash and brush your teeth, you’re weak / henpecked, ha ha ha (sarcasm). The whole thing was very ironic at the beginning, as it started off as a joke that Softies would make about each other. When it got on the radio, though, it took on a more straightforward form.

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        • jholland · May 5, 2016

          That makes more sense… I was worried about the German “manly man’s” teeth for a minute there! What an interesting “craze” to sweep the radio. Entertaining, though…

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      • Guylty · May 6, 2016

        Stupisaurus 😂. No, don’t worry. Humour is difficult to translate, isn’t it? (Those terms all refer to things which supposedly prove you are a wimp, i.e. if you are too weak and scared to shower with cold water, you are a warm-water-shower user.)
        Anyhow, I still think it is really interesting how serious the “bad language” thing is taken. Not sure whether it is all that effective, though. And I mean that in relation to the efforts of the school. We all know that the words will be frequently used by the kids. We use them ourselves. So in a way it is hypocritical to punish them for it. I suppose, it’s worth it only because it teaches the kids to be clever – and only use the words when no adult will hear them 😉

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        • jholland · May 6, 2016

          Oh, it is hypocritical to punish them for something we do so regularly, I have to agree. BUT they do need to know how to express themselves while suppressing bad language, so might as well start early. =)

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        • Guylty · May 6, 2016

          Yeah, I suppose it is all about understanding what is socially acceptable…

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    • Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

      I personally like the F-dash-dash-dash word, it can be used in so many creative ways. I have of course never been offended by it, but one of my sisters (not the one with the daughter) is far more proficient in using it than I am. Several people I know, including my sister with 14yr old, hate the C-u-#% word. Again, never had issues with it myself. But like 20yrs ago, sister with 14yr old was visiting and told my hubs she hated that word, felt people who used it should be fined and or jailed. Hubs then proceeded to use that word in every sentence he spoke the rest of the day. I think his first response went something like, ‘What was that? I Cu#% hear you, something in my ear.’ My sis and I were peeing ourselves laughing before he was done.

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      • Guylty · May 6, 2016

        LOL – inventive use of the word… I am a fan of the vagina monologues and completely agree with the idea of reclaiming the c-word. (I would usually write the whole word, but since this is only a comment on someone else’s page, I’ll refrain lest Jennifer should get lots of unwanted spam otherwise…)

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  8. linnetmoss · May 5, 2016

    I had to chuckle at you tasting the soap. It reminded me of a great scene in “The Christmas Story.” Ralphie’s mom actually tastes the soap after using it on him, and grimaces. This clip doesn’t have that bit but it’s pretty funny anyway:

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    • jholland · May 5, 2016

      Oh, too funny! I’ll have to show this clip to the Young Love. He didn’t believe me when I said it was a time-honored tradition. He was 100% certain that it was “Random in the extreme” (his words!) LOL

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    • Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

      Hubs and I love A Christmas Story! Hubs actually has two leg lamps. I call them ‘his’ major awards. We even went to the house (they do tours) in Cleveland where they filmed it. We were already there for an Aretha Franklin celebration. We aren’t that nerdy, well maybe. I still laugh when he rats out his friend as the culprit for teaching him the F-dash-dash-dash word.

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  9. Mimi Cruz · May 5, 2016

    I am sure I will never remember them, but this one just came back to me as one I used more than once when I was 8 or 9yrs: ‘You are so low, you have to look up to look down.’

    Then there were the momma insults, but where I grew up, you never ever used any of those unless you were ready to throw down.

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  10. Hariclea · May 8, 2016

    OMG J!!! my neighbour just left me my parcel which arrived yesterday when i was out.. o.m.g!! i’ve spent the last hour with a kleenex in hand alternatively wiping my eyes and crawling on all 4 to admire it and every single inch of it and posing it all over the place… it’s simply unbelievably beautiful!!! and i can’t choose which side i love best front or back! thank you to the moon and back and to the sun and back and your mum too!!!!
    More to follow tonight once i get a chance to upload the photos, it’s a thing of love and it was the biggest surprise ever! Got to get away from pc as tearing up again… you are a very special lady (and so is mum!)! xxxx

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  11. Esther · May 13, 2016

    Oh dear… yeah, not a good phase. Sometimes when kids feel powerless they act out physically or with words and you have to teach them to deal with annoyance and insults in another ways. Loved your comeback training! I remember doing something similar with my son once a long time ago… not as detailed as you have done but similar. 🙂 The good thing is, they learn to deal with it better as they get older. The bad thing is, cursing never stops, they just pick and choose which words to use when and with whom. My kids know that certain curse words are totally not OK with us, but some others we decide can’t hurt too much. A word like “Shit” springs to mind, I find that relatively harmless. And it’s natural to need to curse once in a while but yes, there are off limits words and I basically never hear my kids use them at home… Just when I figure my kids are pretty good for not using curse words that are really bad something happens like today when I hear my son speaking to a friend, telling her something peppered with non-savoury curse words! Ugh! And I did it, I told him off for it, even though he’ll be 15 in two months time! And I didn’t care if his friend heard it… Battles change, the issue sadly doesn’t… I wonder sometimes if it’s a futile exercise battling this. I still don’t have a definite answer. And heck, I like to say f–k too sometimes…

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    • jholland · May 17, 2016

      Lol- yes, I am starting to think it is a futile exercise. Just this morning I asked my son if he thought maybe brushing his teeth with soap every day before school would help him remember not to swear- teacher caught him swearing Thursday, Friday and twice on Monday!! Sigh. He wasn’t keen on that thought, and I’m happy to report he didn’t swear today. Or I should say, he wasn’t *caught*….

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